Trust is such a valuable thing. It is the key that unlocks hearts; the gateway to receiving and giving love. You have to trust someone enough to open your heart to exchange love. I always thought it was interesting that the Bible says that love "ALWAYS trusts," in the midst of 1 Cor 13. That means in order to be functioning in true love our hearts need to be open. (sigh) I find this difficult.
It's always been a love hate thing for me. I find I can trust the people who don't deserve it and withhold it from the people who have "earned it". So odd to me.
In my conversations with others throughout the years I find I'm not alone. Why do our hearts naturally slide towards the things that hurt us or bring us to a dark place? Why are we so afraid of real love?
My gut is that because most of us have had intense situations in life that have really messed with our hearts, something inside is broke. A close friend betrayed you, a lover perhaps. . . a spouse. Maybe your parents abused you or other family members, friends. After so many times the hinges on the door of our hearts rust over and are stuck shut, or even nailed shut.
Do you remember being a little kid, not worried about too much? The biggest issue of the day was,"which toy to play with?"or "where is that candy mom hid?" Do you remember being pretty free to just run, dance, sing, scream, jump, laugh with friends so boldly? No fear? I believe that is how we can be again! I believe that God actually WANTS us to be a well oiled door. . . able to LOVE others, Him. . . receive love from others, and Him. . . and CLOSE the door to any lies, doubts, fear, etc. We truly do NOT fight people. . . let me say that with gusto!! But we are definitely to guard our hearts with ALL diligence against the negative things. We can function how we were originally created. . . to trust and deeply love. . . to not trust ever is to deny the very function we were made for. . . yes, LOVE!
Is that really possible to open up bloodied bruised hearts to trust with getting wrecked all over again? How is this possible? It can't be an intellectual thing, the mind is different from the heart (obviously, ha!) The only way I've seen any shift inside of me is by simply asking Jesus to show you how great His love for you is. . . ask Him for help to trust again or love. No 5 steps, no book, no formula, not even a "sermon," just simply talk to the Lord and ask Him. . . He will do the changing! We really can't fix ourselves (believe me I've tried, haha!), but He is so kind, so gentle, such a gentleman with our hearts that He will wait until we are ready, until we ask Him. Try it, if you want. . . you'll never be the same!
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